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Job or a Calling – Fulfilling your purpose through work

A Profound Resignation

Pope Benedict Resignation

In February this year, some colleagues and I were fascinated to see on the BBC news that the Pope had resigned. Through the conversation which followed we deliberated about whether it is actually possible for someone in such a position, someone who represents something so symbolic for the catholic faith, could just step down.

At one point during the discussion I stated; “I guess that if it’s a job, then of course he can resign.”

One of my colleagues then quickly responded by saying; “But is it a job? Surely a position like that is not a job, it’s a calling.”

Although I’m sure the debate about the Pope’s decision to step down could continue into the late hours, I was struck by this question of ‘is it a job or a calling?’.

Is it just a job?

In our current professional lives, it is easy to feel sucked into the corporate machine; existing to work 9 to 5 every day (if you’re lucky) to earn enough to satisfy the needs and wants that must be satisfied. At best in this scenario, you enjoy what you do and connect well with the people you work with, resulting in the ‘job’ being a pleasurable way to spend your day. At worst however, you find that your job draws the life out of you, and you feel as though it is slowly eroding your soul. And, I’m sure you could find yourself anywhere along the continuum between these two extremes.

The scenarios above however are only relevant if you believe that what you do is just a job. Throughout our education and life, very few of us have never been taught to see what we do as being more than a job. Very few of us learn that what we spend so much of our lives doing, can transcend the classic definitions of work, and actually represent our purpose – our calling.

Recognise your calling?

Your Calling

A calling represents the purpose for which you were put on to this earth; the purpose of your existence! As explained through the Paradox of Happiness, your calling is represented by the contribution you make to society, the fulfilment of which is what paradoxically helps you live in a state of unconditional happiness.

To recognise your calling it is essentially to start with the question of “Why am I here?” Through this question you can begin to explore three further questions:

  1. What is the difference I want to make in this world?
  2. Who do you want to make this difference to?
  3. How will you make this difference?

It is through these questions that you can begin to focus; you can begin to bring some clarity to your calling.

Fulfilling your Calling through your Work

Often when people first begin to define their calling (or their purpose), they feel a sense of frustration. This stems from the mis-alignment between what they currently do in their work and the difference they are seeking to make to others. While this frustration may feel like it is valid, before taking any drastic action (i.e. handing in your resignation without other options) it is important to first look for opportunities where you can bring your calling to life through your current job. I have been surprised when discussing this with people that the opportunities to bring your calling to life exist all around, but only if we become conscious of them.

Therefore, as you begin the journey of fulfilling your purpose, begin gently. And, like building the momentum in a fly wheel, look for ways in what you currently do day to day to test your calling and to practice.

(Image of Pope Benedict from Guardian.co.uk)

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Projections – Learn to avoid the Insecurities of Others

Over the recent months I’ve experienced yet another recurring situation where someone had been projecting their fears and insecurities onto someone I was helping. Unlike other times however, where the projections were obvious and clearly wrapped in negative insecurity, this situation was different – the projection was subtle and pitched as a positive opportunity for person, rather than a negative one.

The first manifestation of the projection was the words; “this would mean a promotion for you, and more money”. When the person I was helping told me this, she immediately followed it by saying, “and I didn’t even care about getting promoted, I just want to do what I love.”

After the initial discussion about promotion however, the person gradually became seduced by the opportunity on the table. “Of course, more money would be great,” she said once seemingly justifying the opportunity to herself. But little did they know that the promotion was really just their boss’s unconscious projection of their own definition of success onto them. That is, the boss had staked their life on progressing through the corporate world. They had no clear sense of purpose and so were using progression as a superficial definition of success and a source of distraction from living a full and happy life.

Becoming seduced by the idea of promotion, the person began to forget who they were and what was most important to them. They’d also forgotten their purpose in life, and so;

Promotion had become the more important than purpose.

The possession had become more important than the soul.

The ultimate consequence was that under the pressure they eventually unraveled. Hence, their performance declined, resulting in the promotion being swiftly ripped from their hands. Despite this perceived failure and the negative feedback from their boss however, the person was pleased – they’d escaped from the prison of another’s projections!

The moral of this story is simple:

Listen to your heart and soul – define what success and happiness truly means to you. And when offers are put onto the table, assess them against this definition. Too often the offers for success made by others are more about them then they are about us. However, if we know what success and happiness truly mean to us, then the likelihood of being seduced by the ‘materialistic and superficial’ diminishes.

Stay strong to your purpose!